" The best expression of love is time.  It is focused attention."  These are my favorite lines in the book "Purpose Driven Life" by Rick Warren.  It tells us what is really important in life.  What we all crave.  We know that  nothing can take it's place.  When the attention of someone we love seems off somewhere in a distance, we usually take that as feeling unwanted or unloved.  To capture this back, it can sometimes feel like a chore.  We need to take the opportunity whenever we can to make those we love FEEL love before the opportunity passes and circumstances change.  Maybe if we focus, things will make itself clear.